Although the precise reasons for any married couple having children may vary, there appears to be a prevailing generalized belief that children are essential to married life, to the extent that having children has emerged as the major, if not the only reason, for getting married. In the light of such strong normative pressures towards parenthood, the vast majority of any decision about it would seem more likely to be concerned with the births of children. This essay finds out whether married couples should not be allowed to have more than two children.
Having many children
In some societies, the idea of having many children (more than two) is connected both to the risk of infant mortality and the hope of parental immortality. The period after one’s death is often divided between earlier period of “death within living memory” and a later period concerning “death beyond living memory”. But how else can one remain remembered for a long time? Due to high mortality rates, having more children increases the chances of some surviving to carry the parents’ name down the generations.
Married should have many children because having one child implies that the child has no one to play with when at home. For example when there is one child in a family, it means spending much time by him or herself when he/she is not playing with the parents or friends. It also implies not having any other person close to the child’s age to talk to when he or she is at home. Being raised as a single child, it can be quite a lonely experience.
“And God blessed them, and God said unto them, be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth.” (Genesis 1:28). According to this famous biblical verse, the married couples are supposed to give have many children as possible so as to be on line with the will of God. God has authority over human beings; he cares for them, meets their needs and protects them. One of the ways to exercise this authority is through having many children.
Normally, a happy family is closely associated with an economically stable family; and one of the direct and viable ways of creating a strong family economy is by limiting the number of children to a maximum of two. For instance, many children bring more expenses to the families. Most people seem to reason that having less than two children is a better investment than having many children for whom the parents are not able to provide for. The economic demands placed on child rearing seem to increase at the moment. Nowadays, privatization of responsibility for the family’ s economic survival also includes privatization of child raising responsibilities; nowadays also health care, day care, and education represent major expenses to parents. The beginning of each new school year-with school fess to be paid and new pens, books, and uniforms to be bought-generates a considerable amount of stress to many couples. Another major expense of having a large number of children is the arrangement of children’s marriages as well as setting up new homes for the sons and daughters-in-law. The marriage arrangements for these children are very expensive.
In fact, one of the most important decisions that face every married couple is how many children to have. A sensible couple will want to give each child the support and love he or she needs. The families with one child or two children live a happier life in terms of both parents and children. Various government policies of controlling child birth are significant in the society’s standards of living. In today’s world, the main distinction between the developed and undeveloped areas may be made in terms of the number of children that the couples have. Therefore, married couples should not be allowed to have more than two children.