The social situation is one of the indispensable moments in our lives, and we can’t do anything with that, no matter how desperately we’ve ever tried to. The question is how we gain the advantage in the social situation, and do we gain it at all? Check out the suggested psychological hacks that will help you to overcome any social situation in your life.
Top Effective Psychological Facts
- Comfort is your power
Our brain is the most complicated instrument for sure. Sometimes, we can’t control it as it turns out to be a real challenge for us. Let’s analyze how we usually feel when meeting new people. You’re trying to be social but you find it challenging, that’s because your brain tries to protect you from the hazard. You should somehow assume comfort in any possible interaction. How should you do that? Just command your brain to feel like it’s not a stranger standing before you, imagine that you’ve already known this person. This helps you to gain the position of advantage
- Watch people’s feet when approaching them
Everyone is aware of interrupting the most annoying thing to avoid. If someone is always interrupting every single conversation, especially in the middle of an important one, it means that he/she has no idea of social dynamics. When approaching a group of people who are talking, pay attention to their bodies, as they do say a lot! If they stand with their torsos, not their feet is a sign that they are in the middle of an important conversation and you shouldn’t interrupt them anyway. But you are welcome if they stand with both feet and torso. You might be a savior for someone if you choose right timing in such situation as not every conversation is entertaining.
- In an argument stand next to people, not in front of them
Each time the conversation takes the wrong direction and starts becoming escalating, take the right position. You can’t avoid arguments no matter how desperately you want to unless drama is your hobby, these situations out of nowhere are at every turn. People tend to get irritated each time they feel they aren’t right, even if your argument seems reasonable for sure. Whenever you see that the argument you have with someone creates drama and tension, the best thing to do is to move next to him/her. Mind to stand not in front of them, stand next to them, it makes the difference don’t doubt that.
- Need some help? Just ask for it.
It might seem so easy and simple but people tend to miss the phrase “I need your help.” Either they don’t want to admit they need someone’s help and aren’t able to do something on their own, or they are just lazy. Usually, people accept the request for help, thus they feel like superheroes being capable to do someone a favor and offer some help. If you need a favor, start with “I need your help.” Your chances to be rejected are limited.
- Give people what they really want – validation
How to do that? Every action is the outcome of a person’s need for validation. Yes, everyone does love validation. The greatest and at the same time the simplest way to get people like you, is giving them what they are striving for. When someone is telling you something of the extreme importance for him/her, after he finishes, repeat the things mentioned just in your own words. By rephrasing what has been told you let people know how interested in them you are. What to say about your perfect listening skills. The validation starts right there once they’ve realized they are the center of your attention.
- Nod when you talk
If someone seems to be suggestive it’s a very manipulative and powerful thing for sure. When you are nodding while talking, you the same way give an impulse to another person to agree with you. It’s like a power which helps you to deliver your message to other people. Let’s admit everyone wants to get a positive response. There is no doubt that people will even nod back as people tend to usually like mimicking. This, in turn, will give a signal to their brain that there is nothing left and they have to agree with you.
- Fold your arms and see if they are paying attention and listening to what you’re saying
We might get lost in our stream of thoughts when it goes about something extremely important for us, paying no attention to whether another person is listening or not. What should you do in order not to waste your precious time on someone who isn’t really interested in what you are saying and is totally distracted? While your ‘speech’ fold your arms. For what? To see if they follow your move, if he/she doesn’t do that, they aren’t listening, be sure. See when someone pays attention and cares he/she will observe you and most probably mimic you.
- Repeat the other person’s name while you are talking if you are really bad at remembering names
We might be not very attentive when someone says their names or just having troubles remembering them. It’s ok, we all suffer from that kind of thing, at least almost everyone, let’s be honest. To not forget the name right after you’ve heard it, just keep repeating his/her name throughout the conversation. Why does it matter? Because when someone mentions your name you at once feel important. Remembering names does matter.
- If you ask a question and want a full answer, just wait, as they will keep talking.
If you receive only a partial answer to your question, you should wait. You might start thinking that your question wasn’t clear enough, don’t bother; it happens as often as not. You should keep eye contact and wait for the full answer to arrive. If a waiting process becomes a nightmare; try to raise your eyebrows, it somehow plays a role of pressure on people but shows you are interested in. Thus you indicate that you are the one who always gets what he/she wants.
- Avoid the words “I believe” and “I think” if you do want to be persuasive.
These words don’t have a tendency to evoke confidence and be persuasive enough. If you really want to be taken seriously avoid those words and use “I will,” “I’m sure,” and “I know” instead. That makes sense for sure.