Divorce entails the termination of a marriage union between couples. It leads to the cancellation of legal duties and responsibilities of the official marriage, because it keeps partners away from each other. This is one of the most painful experiences in marriages and most people are afraid of being subjected to divorces because of the implications. In fact, some individuals end up dying from stress due to divorce. Children are usually the most affected in cases of a divorce, because they are forced to live separate lives with at least one of the parents.
This essay explicates the divorce through a sequential summary of the article “The Divorce Experience”. This article explains the divorce and the various issues related to it.
Various factors could lead to the divorce in the society. The divorce does not come, as a spontaneous event in life, there must be some critical factors leading to it. These factors include continuous disagreements, drug and alcohol abuse, and domestic violence.
Continuous disagreements between couples have immensely contributed to the divorces in the society. In cases where couples cannot agree on any issue, they are automatically forced to divorce in order to give space for their different ideas. According to Amos (2008), it would be difficult for such a couple to continue living together, because they cannot live and work together as one body. The divorce could come about due to a mutual agreement between the partners, or it could be enforced by one of the partners. Montenegro (2004) reports that continuous disagreements make couples start contemplating the divorces earlier without disclosing this fact. In addition, Montenegro asserts that couples between 40 and 70 years always contemplated their divorce during one year before taking action.
Drug and alcohol abuse is another common factor that leads to divorces. Most partners would not tolerate each other because of drug abuse. Clarke-Stewart & Brentano (2007) asserts that, in cases where one of the partners is a drug addict, the marriage would have little chances of survival, hence, leading to the divorce. Most people believe that a marriage would not be enjoyable in case one of the partners is addicted to drugs or alcohol. Lichtenberger (2010) points out that addiction leads to irresponsibility among some partners, hence, leading to a forceful action of divorce. The divorces that emanate from drug abuse would leave the sober partner with an inevitable duty of taking care of children. In the article, “The Divorce Experience” the author points out that victims of drug and alcohol abuse are much more likely to file for a divorce. This means that they would opt for a walk away and leave the drug-abusing partners.
There are several implications of a divorce. For instance, there is stress among couples and identity crisis among some children. Most victims of divorce are exposed to high levels of stress that would ultimately lead to death. They are not able to contain their emotions and end up missing their spouses. Montenegro (2004) asserts that loneliness leads to stress among individuals. They lack company and are forced to do everything by themselves. It is reported that stress would make some individuals commit suicide. Montenegro asserts that along with emotional turmoil, people also report other difficulties. This is an indication of high levels of stress and the inability to manage other activities alone.
Children would end up suffering from the identity crisis in case of a divorce. This is because they are physically separated from one of their parents. Most of them would not grow as expected because of the feeling of inadequacy, especially in the areas relating to both motherly and fatherly love. Divorces that come about when children are very young would result in identity crises because children grow up without knowing both of their parents. According to Montenegro (2004), they would grow up as single parent children. At some point, they are not able to identify their clear origin; it usually leads to the identity crisis. Montenegro asserts that those who experienced divorces at the ages of between 20 and 30 gave priority to their children. This means that they hesitated to take the action of divorce with the aim of ensuring their children’s safety and avoiding their suffering from the identity crisis.
Individuals can manage their lives after divorce through remarrying or staying single. Remarrying is the process of looking out for another partner perceived to be compatible and desirable for a relationship. According to Clarke-Stewart & Brentano (2007), divorce motivates individuals to choose a new partner; they feel it would be the most appropriate to feel the gap left behind. It is emphasized that divorced partners, intending to remarry, must take caution in order to get their required partners to avoid further divorces. Montenegro points out that those who remarry lead a more relaxed life after divorce compared to those who tend to stay single. The failure to remarry leads to stress among partners due to loneliness. Thus, the article emphasizes that it would be vital in case one considered remarrying.
In conclusion, a divorce refers to a separation between couples. It leads to the discharge of legal duties and responsibilities relating to the partners, because marriage is terminated. The adverse effects caused by divorces make most people afraid of getting into such situations. The article emphasizes that divorce is undesirable, because it causes an immense suffering to both couples and children.