Heterosexuality in "Kissing the Witch"
Heterosexuality is a romantic sexual attraction, or behavior that takes place between persons of the opposite sex (Brooks, p36). It refers to a pattern of endurance leading to an experienced pattern of disposition, affectionate and romantic attractions to persons of the opposite sex. This term is mainly applied to human beings, but it is also observed in all mammals. Heterosexuality is one of the main classifications of sexual orientation. Other classes are bisexual and homosexual orientations.
Heterosexuality also refers to a union between two people of the opposite gender orientations and is the natural way of production in human beings and animals (Gamble, p67). This form of attraction is often natural between men and women. It is the only human union endorsed by God as marriage to perform sexual activities.
The theory of heterosexuality
God made man in his image as a mortal being to procreate in order for a continual specie reproduction. According to God, two men were unsuitable for this, and thus, He made a woman from the man. Therefore, the human race continues to be heterosexual because of the correct genetic characteristics inherited from the creation of man and established by God.
Heterosexuality in “Kissing The Witch”
The tale of the bird
In this story, the narrator explains how different life was in regards to the sexual orientation a person belonged to. She narrates how women were viewed with low esteem even to the extent of having more regards to domesticated animals. Animals had their place on earth and their existence was never questioned the way the existence of women was questioned. In such a society, women were regarded as of low value and their life appeared to be more of a borrowed life.
The society had confined the women to the corners of the house, and they were denied the chance to engage in nothing. They were allowed to learn the rules of the house and manage the household chores until the house became small (Donoghue, p28). Once married, a woman had to seek the permission of the husband to move away from the house. Sneaking from the homestead was an infringement of communal rules, and it was a social responsibility of the youth to bring her back.
The story also highlights the problems and suffering women underwent during pregnancy, childbirth and babysitting. It appears the narrator in this tale at some point contemplated committing suicide. She narrates how life had turned unbearable, and she had at one time decided not to think about herself. The story ends when she wishes not having a child because a year from that time, her plan is to run away from the marital home, but she fears she would be locked up again. But her resolution is that she is now aware that her freedom lies in her efforts.
The word bird has been symbolically used to denote how the story teller has now come of age, grown wings and now ready to fly (Donoghue, p36). It illustrates how the once naive girl turned to a brilliant woman and now eagerly she was in search for her own freedom; to be what she was meant to be.
The tale of the needle
In this tale, the narrator is a naive girl who tries to illustrate how feminism teachings were passed from one generation to another. There was so much to be taught by the elder women folks, but as she explains, the most important lesson was the virtues of a woman. She learns how a girl’s face was the prettiest and her heart most angelic and her wits among the sharpest. This was done in comparison to the male gender of the world.
The success stories were narrated to her by her mother about how things were done for hundreds of years. The society prevented their women and girls to think and do things on their own and therefore, they had to follow the precedence set by their mothers, aunts and great grandmothers. Stories of how beautiful, hardworking, smart and courageous her great grandmothers were made them to be admired and married by important people in the society (Donoghue, p56). It was also said of how they gave birth to a number of children. In short, women were expected to be humble, hardworking, good looking, obedient and submissive in order to have good husbands for the good future. Warnings were pronounced to them in case they decide to do things on their own.
On the other hand, men were viewed as bad and evil. “There is nothing out there you need to see, it is a cruel world full of evil men” (Donoghue, p30). When women were praised to be of good character, this phrase tells us that men were the most unwelcomed in the society unless endorsed by a reputable authority such as the prince, the duke and the earl.
The story comes to an end when things turn the other way; the society had prevented the young women to learn things that should turn them defiant. However, her mother has now resolved to let things change and reveals to her the secrets of survival. The needle has been used by the writer symbolically to show how small the girl child was viewed by the society but after thorough enlightenment, she can prick the society and set free the enclosed liberty in women.
The tale of a voice
The tale involves a conversation that goes on between a little girl (the narrator) and another elder woman. The theme of the conversation is about the woman previous relationship with men. The little girl narrates how she had perceived the old woman with all the dignity that was deserved. According to the old woman, her life with her marriage life had been one of the perfect she had known.
In the story, the concept of being right and being in love has been highly emphasized. The elder women had the power to pass blessings to their young daughters (Donoghue, p64). This story had a different setting that is revealed by the narrator objecting advances from her neighborhood sons. This was despite her pursuer was handsome and from a well-to-do background while she came from less privileged family.
The narrator compares herself with the man of her dream, and she appears to be mesmerized by his appearance and style of dressing. She even imagined how happy she could be with him as a husband. She was everything she could only have, but she could not manage to get him. Her hopes are shuttered down on knowing about the competition that other girls of her age bring to him. Most of them are determined to have him more than anything else. But tlove she has for him makes her neglect her people and opt to give to him anything he had ever sought
The narrator regrets her decision to turn him down when he had requested her favor and wish that she had not changed. It went to a point where her body loosened the urge to attract the man. At last she couldn’t reach her dream of marrying the son of a rich man but ended up with a fisherman who loved to hear her sing.
The use of word symbolizes the importance of being informed and the its impact on society. An uninformed society lags behind in terms of social development. The narrator reveals how the power of information led her to set clear guidelines on the choice of a partner she would like to have. She condemns the failure to have the necessary information as the cause for her failure to have the man of her dream.
The three stories have been used to illustrate how heterosexuality, courtship and the institution of marriage were practiced in different societies. The three tales emphasize on small girl’s advice on how to make a good woman, a good mother and a good wife who the society can envy. The author illustrates how different people fall in love with the person of the other and the desire for sex grows. At some point, the young girls are thought to be mistaken about their feelings and get confusion of their own sexual orientation. However, through the advice and teaching of the old they are able to come into terms with the reality.
In these settings represented by the tales, the desire for the other partner is particularly for self identification, romantic love, reproduction and the desire of maintaining strong bonds between the members of the society. All the three tales are set in conventional societies that the younger generation experiences a change in their perception towards sexuality and romantic relationship.
The prevailing conditions of romantic love
There is a basic assumption that sexual attraction is equally an essential ingredient to the initiation of romantic love. According to their explanation, the flicker of passion mustignite romantic love or else no romantic love does exist. This assumption is founded on the principal about the importance of sexual attraction in any their romantic relationships.
Conversely, a good definition of romantic love can emerge when we deeply merge with a partner who is conventionally met through sex. Most couples naturally confound their desire for deeper union with sexual gratification. However, throughout history people rarely recognize that there may be more essential desire. Generosity towards a potential partner and the desire to selflessly nurture him often lead to craving for a closer union. This attraction can go on either ways, meaning that, sexual desire can ease affectional bonding and vice versa.
The worth of women
In ‘the tale of the bird’, women were viewed less important in the society. The male chauvinistic society has more regards to animals than their female counterparts (Sellers & Susan, p40). Their chores and responsibilities were confined to the walls of the house, and were not expected to perform no non-domestic outdoor activities. Romantic relationship between men and women never existed, and the role of sexuality was mainly a child bearing activity. Women were expected to be fertile and anything short of this rendered a woman to the worthless social outcast.
In ‘the tale of the needle’, the naïve girl is passed through the stories of her predecessor women and shown how humble and submissive they were intended to be. The women look forward to be attractive, kind and possess outstanding talents that keep their men happy. They are perceived as entertainment objects for their men. On the other hand, good men were meant to be the most successful in the society or the highly ranked in the social ladder. Every woman yearned to have such kind of men for a husband. Sexual attraction was initiated by women towards them. Thus, in this social set up, good life was meant for the most beautiful women and the well up men who were the society’s role model (Humm, p49).
In the tale of the voice, the conversation between the old woman and the girl reveals how the society views the subject of sexuality. The old woman expresses how she had seen more men in her life time. This is an indication of her sexual relationship with a number of men. In this story, women are seen to be the one who calls the shot particularly when romantic relationship and sexual bonds are to be made. Women are presented as those who dress well, dance well in order to attract and seduce the man of their dream.
Romantic attractiveness versus Sexual attractiveness
According to psychologists there can be a difference between something that is romantically attractive and sexually attractive. What is often overlooked by many is the ability to choose the goal to seek. For example, a person’s physical attraction has a major role in sexual attractiveness. On the other hand, people have several qualities that define a romantic partner; these are kindness, a sense of humor, warmth, sociable, trustworthy and a stable personality. It's possible that even long-term couples do not know the source of their compatibility. However, the sexual spark may not be the binding factor between them, but their bond may be from different qualities.
Another way that romance is put before sexual attraction is to seek balance and clarity in life through meditation, yoga, or some similar practice (Genz, Ste%u0301phanie & Benjamin, p78). A clear perception makes it easy to choose a love partner with romantic potentials other than mere sexual appeals.
This points out a more positive look towards women in regard to religion and family (Brooks & Ann, p56). In another aspect, post feminism is seen as a political achievement where women issues are confronted with a difference. It refers to a time when there is complete equality on gender. It suggests having a plenty of progress. In the three tales, there is a similarity where in each, a post feminist status is partially achieved. In the end, we find each society setting its women free from the chains of feminist conservatism to a point where they can make their own decision for their life without fear. This is achieved through informing them of their role and their freedoms and rights.